Women Expect Clear Communication, Proper Date Planning, And Respect For Their Time As The Minimum Standards In Modern Dating.
The bare minimum that women expect from potential partners is not as demanding as one might think. Alisha Bhojwani, a 32-year-old media adviser, took to TikTok to ask other women what their minimum standards are when it comes to dating. Her goal was to establish a benchmark for acceptable behavior in romantic pursuits.
“I really need to get some sort of benchmark on what the girlies are accepting as the bare minimum when it comes to dating,” Alisha explained in her video. She believes that transparency about our standards in romance is crucial and shared her own set of four requirements.
Firstly, Alisha insists that a potential date must ask her out properly. “That does not mean hanging out,” she stressed. The casual phrasing of "hanging out" or "catching up" is a turn-off for her. She wants a clear and direct invitation for a date.
The second requirement is that the date should take initiative in choosing a place. If they can't decide, they should come back with suggestions to discuss together. This shows effort and consideration in planning the date.
Thirdly, she expects her date to reconfirm the plan on the day of the date, ideally before 2 p.m., and to be waiting outside the venue when she arrives. Punctuality and reconfirmation indicate seriousness and respect for her time.
Alisha’s standards are less about traditional romantic gestures like flowers and more about clear communication. Her TikTok video received a wide range of responses, with many women agreeing that Aussie men often do not put enough effort into dating.
One woman mentioned that her only requirement is for the man to organize the first date, but it should not be at his house. Another woman emphasized the need for men to be clear and obvious about their intentions to take her on a date.
Some men weighed in on the conversation as well. One man noted that he has friends nearing 30 who have never taken a girl on a proper first date; they simply ask women to "hang out." Another comment suggested that the dating culture is in "the trenches," with minimal effort being the norm.
Alisha shared with news.com.au that the common theme among the responses was a desire for proper date invitations. “Using language that alludes to ‘hanging out or catching up’ can be misconstrued as disinterest,” she explained. Proper communication is key to showing genuine interest.
She believes that better communication and transparency are vital in dating, especially online. “Everyone’s time is as valuable as your own, so being respectful of that and upfront about what you want would help solve a lot of dating issues we see online,” Alisha said.
While romance isn't dead, the approach to it has certainly evolved. Clear communication, respect, and proper planning are the new bare minimums that women expect in the dating world.