Dating Expert Rozz Switzer Highlights Common Mistakes Men Make On Dating Apps, Such As Poor Profiles And Lack Of Effort, And Offers Tips For Success.
These days, dating can often feel closer to competing in an elite sport than finding someone you’re compatible with. But according to seasoned dater Rozz Switzer, a single mother and daytime TV personality, there are more than a few mistakes some men are making that are having a less than desirable effect on their quest for love.
While the modern-day dating pool appears to be filled with plenty of hopeful fish, anyone who has spent some time on dating apps knows reeling in a quality catch is harder than it looks. For Switzer, getting back into the dating scene has been nothing short of a rude awakening. As Switzer shares, the scene has drastically changed over the last few years, and not for the better.
Thoughtfully curating her own profile to honestly reflect her appearance, personality, and dating expectations, Switzer began to notice the same amount of effort was not often reciprocated amongst male daters. "I know I’m not alone here on this list of turn-offs/red flags when us gals are swiping on the Apps!” she says. “If you have not made an effort with your profile photos and Bio, then what would make us think that you would ever make an effort with a relationship?”
Switzer shares with Body+Soul the worst mistakes single men are making and offers some tried and tested tips on how to find success on the apps.
Top Dating Profile Turn-offs
Hiding their faces: Men who conceal their faces in photos, claiming high-profile jobs, raise suspicion about hiding something more serious, like a wife. "I’m on TV and I’m honest about who I am," Switzer says.
Being an ‘App-Fish’: This breed of dater uses online platforms for validation without pursuing genuine relationships. They enjoy matching and chatting but vanish when it's time to take things offline.
Poor photo selection: Low-quality or out-of-date images, photos with inappropriate content, and group photos are turn-offs. Switzer explains, “Bad photos include out-of-focus, no-face or group photos, photos with your wife or girlfriend, selfies in the gym mirror-flexing, and more.”
Blank or dishonest bios: Lack of effort or honesty in bios is a red flag. Switzer emphasizes the importance of transparency, suggesting that disclosing short-term fling intentions upfront can save time and effort.
Conversations that go nowhere: A match is useless if the conversation doesn't progress. “It works like a game of tennis, if I ask a question then you answer and ask one back of me so we can keep the convo going,” Switzer explains.
In-Person Dating Turn-offs
Failing to lock in dates: Matching and chatting are only part of the process; setting up a real-life meet-up is crucial. Switzer advises asking for a date within the first few days to maintain interest.
Cancelling without a good reason: Respect is key. Unexpected things happen, but cancelling a date within 24 hours is disrespectful and inconsiderate, given the effort put into planning.
Speaking badly about exes: First dates should focus on getting to know each other, not bad-mouthing past partners. Switzer advises against bragging about financial settlements or speaking ill of ex-partners.
Why Are Men Making These Mistakes?
Switzer notes that older men often repeat the same mistakes, showing an unwillingness to learn or adapt to the changing dating landscape. “Most older men haven’t taken the time to work on themselves or take accountability for their role in the demise of their previous long-term relationship,” she says. This leads to lazy dating efforts focused more on immediate pleasure than long-term commitment.
Unlike men, women often have a supportive network of similar-age single friends for advice and socializing. This support system can make a significant difference in navigating the dating scene effectively.